What do you think about waiting for marriage?
Thursday, July 15th, 2010 at
8:09 am
Do you think it is a good idea?
Do you think it is better to have strong morals about this?
Do men want to marry a girl who has waited?
Why do people put you down if you chose not to have sex before marriage but its more acceptable to sleep around?
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it worked before, so yes.
thar all the sammeee
every women is a winner if shes hot and does not marry roosters
whatever makes you happy
there are many flavors of men who are out there waiting for every flavor of girl – some want the experienced girl, some want to teach her themselves
don’t worry about this – it is so far behind us
I think it’s a big mistake, and I wouldn’t want to marry a virgin over the age of say 25. A girl who’s waited that long is likely to have all kinds of hang-ups and misconceptions about sex. It isn’t healthy. People are meant to be sexual, not repressed.
If you can deny something like that to yourself for so long, what else are you denying yourself? What do you expect me to deny myself? What are you going to put in the heads of our children?
Most guys I know give up on the girls that are holding out, but they’ll have nothing to do with ones that are supposedly overly promiscuous. I think the key phrase here is “use sparingly”.
Don’t bang every single guy you go out with, but if you’ve been going steady with one guy for a while, in this day and age it’s acceptable. Just make sure he’s invested some time and energy before you allow anything. Notice I said “time and energy” not “cash”.
It’s a good idea to, I’m planning to.
It is all in what you want if you are of age but think real hard about this matter. don’t be crazy.
Yes because people are dumb and like to give each other STDs.
I waited (not long I got married young) but it wasn’t because of morals, the guys here are mostly jerks.
My husband loves the fact that I was a virgin.
No one put me down about it, and if they do then just say, “At least I’m not a disease-ridden slut”
Hope that helps!
I think it is a good idea for me as it fits with my principles but it may not be right for someone else. Having sex is not immoral or wrong. It is natural it’s just that I want to be married first and in a loving and committed relationship. It is a personal choice based on your own values.
I don’t think it makes me better than anyone else or that those who don’t wait are lacking or in the wrong. It’s a decision that you have to make for yourself and not be pressured either way by other people.
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-Yes, it’s a good idea. I did it and my husband did it. My brother and his wife both did it. My brother-in-law and his wife did too, as did a bunch of my friends (I know lots of young Christian couples…). I don’t think any of us regret it.
-Yes, I do! It causes far less complications and problems and heartache when you have just one partner instead of relationship after relationship. You have less to regret and less to be ashamed about. You are far less likely to have an unwanted child or an STD. The list of pros is way, way bigger than the list of cons.
-Yes, many do. Others want someone with “experience”.
-People think that experience is important. It’s not. It doesn’t matter if you’re generally good in bed; all that matters is figuring out what works for you and your spouse. It’s something that is very, very easy to learn, and you don’t need to have lots of other past partners in order to make things work between you and your spouse. As for why they put you down, perhaps your good example makes them feel guilty about the choices they’ve made. Maybe they’ve got regrets.
Usually only extremely co-dependent, emotionally immature people make sex the basis of a long-term relationship.
“What do you think about waiting for marriage?”
If that’s what you want to do, good for you. Personally, I waited until I graduated HS, didn’t want that drama/risk pregnancy before I could get my diploma.
“Do you think it is a good idea?”
It’s neither good or bad, it’s a personal decision.
“Do you think it is better to have strong morals about this?”
I really don’t see what’s moral about it, let alone “strong”. This is a personal decision, and putting a “strong moral” tag on it just implies that it is right to do so, and IMO it isn’t right or wrong, and not something a person should be judged on.
“Do men want to marry a girl who has waited?”
Some do, some don’t. Depends on what kind of man you want to marry. If you are one that is willing to wait, you would probably want a man that is OK with that. If you aren’t one that is willing to wait, you’d probably want a man that doesn’t judge a person on that particular issue.
“Why do people put you down if you chose not to have sex before marriage but its more acceptable to sleep around?”
Because they are either idiots or they’ve encountered too many people that have put THEM down for not waiting and are tired of being judged as being bad because they do sleep around. I’ve seen more judgment thrown at someone who “sleeps around” than I ever have seen thrown at someone who wants to wait. The majority of the time, when I’ve seen the waiters get judged/insulted is if they themselves judged and insulted anyone that doesn’t share their view.
1) It’s a good idea if that’s how you want to live your life.
2) There’s nothing wrong with morals. As long as you can live your life and not regret waiting or not waiting then that’s all that matters. I know people that wished they hadn’t waited so long (myself included) but I know many more people that wished they had waited. Which one will you be?
3) I can’t speak for all men but I used to want that kind of girl when I was younger. I even saved myself longer than I should have, looking for a woman that was doing the same so I wouldn’t be a hypocrite. Eventually I gave up and never looked back.
4) To justify that the decision they made in their life was the right one or to make themselves feel superior, it doesn’t matter what the reason is, people will put you down over anything. It’s your life not theirs. You will be the one to reap the benefits or suffer the consequences of your actions, not them, so who cares what they think.
Not my bag, but I don’t care if someone else does it, as long as they’re not dating me.
No.
Someone said on here that it doesn’t matter if they are good in bed are the words of someone who hasn’t had sex with someone whose useless.
I tried for 5 years to teach a guy what to do, finally gave up. He though he was doing everything o.k and wouldn’t be told otherwise. You have no idea how frustrating and how having a poor sex life affects the rest of your day to day life.
Men are very fickled. They all want to be the first, but are not prepared to wait til marriage. They try it on the first date and if you give in they think you’re a whore and if you don’t they think your frigid or a lesbian, you can’t win.
Men still think that a woman’s sex drive is less than theirs, how wrong they are. We’re just more selective.
If people put others down because they choose to wait, it’s only because they are jealous and regret not waiting themselves.
This is a personal decision, there is not a good or bad idea about it. If it works for you, fine. I think that women that sleep around are put down much more than those that wait, which is wrong because this is something that nobody should be judged about.
Excellent idea you will not regret it. ppl who sleep around will never know what it is like to save yourself for marriage. Just like they boast that you dont know what it’s like to have sex. In the end they are the ones who lose. VALUE your virginity and purity, it is a very very special and precious thing!
Yes, I am really looking forward to marrying a woman who showed me how comfortable she is with not having sex.
When women from that era found out he got it elsewhere they were supposed to shut up about it unless they wanted to be slapped hard. Thats the other side of the medal of the “good old times”.
Why don’t you make up your own mind about this? Instead of listening to people who don’t know you.
Anyway, here goes. Do I think it is a good idea? Only if you’re religious. Or don’t have good contraception advise.
No, I don’t. I know old ladies who are virgins, who never met “the one” (or he died). They’re lovely old ladies, don’t get me wrong, but I think that nowadays too many men are terrified of the religious connections that come with “waiting for marriage”.
I think that men want to marry the girl they love.
If people put you down because of your beliefs, the shame is theirs, not yours. It is up to you to make up your mind – they don’t count in your life. You only have one life, use it well.
NO. No no and no. When you go shopping for a new pair of shoes you don’t just buy them without trying them on, I mean, they might not fit! Or not feel right. Thats the same principle you use when choosing a man. What if you marry him and then when the time comes to have sex his penis is too big and its never going to give you an orgasm. Or he doesn’t do the things that would drive you crazy in bed because he wouldn’t want to. Or any manner of things.
I think it’s a personal decision but there are those who will never get married either because they don’t want to or they never find the right person. Should they die as virgins as a form of “punishment” because of their choices?
marry someone when it feels right and you have faith that it’s going to last. if the marriage fails, put it down to experience. you can’t write your life out in stone, even if you wait.
I don’t know. I can’t really fathom modern attitudes towards virginity. a lot of men on here sneer at women for not being virgins, but other men complain that women won’t have sex with them. There does not seem to be any coherent consensus of opinion about this.
I think the best thing is just to do what you want to do. If you want to remain a virgin until marriage, then do so. But it would be better to mention this to men fairly early on in your relationship, so they don’t get any wrong ideas about what they can expect.
It would also be better, if you intend to hang onto your virginity, not to put yourself in a position where a man is likely to try and put pressure on you to do otherwise. So don’t be alone with him in a place where sex is likely to be an option, like his apartment or anywhere like that. Stick to socialising in relatively public places, or in groups.
I did–not until the age of 30, the day I got married. We’ve been married 13 years..I don’t know, people used to put me down because they thought I was a goody-two shoes…I have good morals, what can you say…ignore them. It’s your decision, not theirs. And yes MEN Do Like Virgins.